Misery loves company, and so does the ordinary, the boring, and the irrelevant. No one likes mediocrity. To be attractive is to be different: to be outstanding.
But being different can be scary.
Good news is that there is a way to defeat the fear of being different.
You may fear not being good enough, not being prepared, not seeing instant results.
First, have in mind that it’s normal to feel afraid because of the reasons stated above. The most accurate definition for the fear of standing out can be found in Steven Pressfield “Art of War”, called Resistance. With capital R.
Resistance is what keeps you from evolving, from doing the work you need to do in order to succeed, from reaching our potential, to be exceptional.
“Resistance will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. … If you take Resistance at its word, you deserve everything you get. Resistance is always lying and always full of shit.”
Resistance is the excuses we make to stay average, to favour a short-term mindset. At the heart of valuable change, there’s hard work, long-term thinking, discipline, and commitment to yourself.
Your Resistance may come from your own beliefs, or from your environment. But once we recognize it and counter it with the right tools and strategies, it can be defeated.
It starts with you.
Once you get serious and real about standing out from the average, the only thing to do is to keep going. And the best tools you have are discipline and patience. They complement each other. Discipline is not about punishment, but about training yourself to be consistent. Patience is a natural consequence of discipline: it is about enjoying every part of our journey while overcoming every obstacle, no matter how scary it can be.
If you have a physical trait that makes you stand out, we can complement it, not hide it to be “normal”: normal is boring, and goes unnoticed. If it’s a positive personality trait, we’ll work to create a styling that can express it through a fascinating presence. If your appearance matches your beliefs, people will get the correct impression of you.
Once your style becomes outstanding, not only you will get noticed, but outstanding people, experiences, and opportunities will come nearer and become the new normal in your life. Because you attract the energy you give off.
To Conquer Your Style™ is, among other things, to conquer your fear of standing out.
In order to achieve a major life change, you need purpose and determination. This is why my program focuses on mindset, not just on clothes and styling.